Lori Jakiela's memoir examines both the lives we are born with and the lives we create for ourselves. After her adoptive mother’s death, Lori Jakiela, at the age of forty, begins to seek the identity of her birth parents. Amid this loss, Jakiela also finds herself with a need to uncover her family’s medical history to gather answers for her daughter’s newly revealed medical ailments. This memoir brings together these parallel searches while chronicling intergenerational questions of family. Desires for emotional resolution comingle with concerns of medical inheritance and loss in this honest, humorous, and heartbreaking memoir.