Advice on How To Do Your Own Divorce and Recover Quickly. Expert Advice for a Fast and Pain-Free Divorce. From making the decision to divorce to preparing for separation to representing yourself or hiring an attorney to what to do about a bad judge, this book walks the litigant through the system, with heart, humor, and down to earth advice. Additionally, the judge talks plainly about what a person should and shouldn't do during and after the divorce and recovering as quickly as possible.